Counseling to Improve Connection, Pleasure, and Sexual Well-Being in NYC
Sex Therapy in NYC
Sex therapy isn’t just about fixing something that’s broken. It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you — physically, emotionally, relationally — and building the kind of sexual and emotional connection you actually want.
Whether you’re dealing with low desire, pain during sex, trouble with orgasm, shame about pleasure, or the impact of an STI diagnosis, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to have it all figured out.
In therapy, we can explore what’s getting in the way of comfort, connection, and pleasure — whether that’s anxiety, performance pressure, early messages about sex, or something harder to name. We can go at your pace, and we’ll work toward more trust in yourself, more confidence in your desires, and more freedom in your body.
My approach to sex therapy is affirming, collaborative, and deeply respectful of your unique experiences. You don’t need to have the right words — just the willingness to begin.
Some of the issues that can be addressed in sex therapy are
Improving or increasing pleasure (with yourself or with a partner)
Experiences of pain with sex
Low libido
Difficulty achieving orgasm
Shame associated with how you feel about yourself
Shame associated with a religious upbringing or beliefs
Insecurity about your body
Erectile dysfunction
Performance anxiety
Side effects of antidepressants or hormonal contraception
Changes that come with perimenopause/menopause
Feeling resentment or disconnection from your partner
Mismatched libido or desire
Trouble using condoms
Body image and sexual self-worth
Curiosity about or support with relationship structures such as polyamory, kink, or non-monogamy
Recovering sexual connection in a monogamous relationship
Relational or erotic patterns you feel concerned about
Ready to get started?
If you are interested in working with me, please contact me for a complimentary phone consultation to see if we might be a good fit. I would like to learn a bit about your needs and goals to see if I can help.
Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Therapy
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You don’t need to have a specific label or diagnosis to seek support. If something about your sexual experience, desire, or body feels confusing, distressing, or just not right, we can talk about it. Therapy can help you understand what’s going on — and figure out what you need to feel more comfortable, confident, and connected.
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Examples of the kinds of issues we might talk about are:
Experiences of pain with sex
Low libido
Difficulty achieving orgasm
Shame associated with how you feel about yourself
Shame associated with a religious upbringing or beliefs
Erectile dysfunction
Insecurity about your body
Performance anxiety
Side effects of antidepressants or hormonal contraception
Changes that come with perimenopause/menopause
Feeling resentment or disconnection from your partner
Mismatched libido or desire
Trouble using condoms confidently
Body image and sexual self-worth
Curiosity about or support with polyamory, kink, or non-monogamy
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A lot of people worry about this and you’re not alone! People often describe me as easy to talk to. I know these are sensitive topics that can make people feel vulnerable. We will go at your pace.
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That’s totally ok! I do a lot of work with individuals who are not in relationships.
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Absolutely! I do regular therapy in addition to sex therapy. And emotional struggles are often connected to sexual ones.
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Yes. It is actually a wonderful opportunity to work on healing those experiences.
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Not at all. If you just want to connect better to your body and improve your sex life or experiences of pleasure, that is enough to start sex therapy. Sex is an important part of our lives, an area that is worth understanding how to improve our potential.
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I’m currently completing advanced training in sex therapy through the Sexual Health Alliance, which takes an intensely sex positive approach to sex therapy. Meaning, my training is focused on understanding not just how to address problems, but to see that many problems are healthy responses to sex that is simply not enjoyable. My core value in sex therapy is to help my clients be more connected to their bodies and to create sex worth wanting.
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Sex therapy helps you understand and learn about your body and it’s normal and natural responses. Education is often all that’s needed to address problems. Culture, our upbringing, media, religion, school, and past experiences can all contribute to ideas about sex and our bodies that are inaccurate and can cause a disconnect between our bodies and the kind of sex we hope to have.
If education isn’t quite enough to solve the problems, we will add exercises and techniques meant to improve sexual pleasure and reduce problems that are interfering. You work on these exercises on your own or with a partner between sessions.
In some cases, more intensive therapy becomes important, because sometimes deeper issues are interfering with our ability to address the problems. This can become a meaningful period of internal exploration.
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Sex therapy never involves sex or touch with the therapist. The therapist will talk with you to resolve or process concerns and where appropriate provide education or information on techniques that are most likely to be beneficial, and you will engage in the exercises on your own or with your partner(s). Sex therapy can also involve talking through internal conflicts, conflicts affecting your sexual relationship with your partner, or help process difficult feelings associated with your sexuality or sexual experiences.
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Absolutely! I proudly welcome members of the LGBTQI community. I especially love working with individuals from this community who have come from evangelical Christian backgrounds and need understanding and/or support associated with this.
COUNSELING SERVICES - WHO I HELP
You may look like you’re holding it all together — but inside, you feel anxious, stuck, or uncertain about how to move forward. Maybe you're tired of overthinking, tired of performing, tired of feeling like it’s all on you. In therapy, we’ll create space for you—your real feelings and your real thoughts and worries about what is going on. Together, we can explore the deeper patterns that affect your self-worth, relationships, sexuality, and confidence — and help you reconnect with or define your values so you can move forward with more clarity, agency, and trust in yourself.
A herpes diagnosis can feel isolating, overwhelming, and disorienting. But it doesn't have to define you. I offer a compassionate space to process the shock, shame, and confusion — and to help you reconnect with your sense of self, sexuality, and self-worth. Whether this is all new or something you’ve been quietly carrying for years, you don’t have to face it alone.
Learn more about counseling for women with herpes, counseling for men with herpes, or the therapy group for women with herpes.
Sexuality is deeply personal — and often layered with thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires we’ve never spoken aloud. You may be struggling with low desire, pain during sex, difficulty achieving orgasm, performance anxiety, or changes related to perimenopause or menopause. You may simply want to understand yourself more fully. I offer a supportive, nonjudgmental space to explore these concerns at your own pace — wherever you are in your journey.